My dearest Henry,
it seems that you missed the point of this article entirely — if couples discussed their stance on this ahead of time, there would be no need for anger and there would be no betrayal of trust. Sadly, most don’t so maybe start now.
Also, please check the references I included. In one of them, we learn that while most people condemn secrecy when it comes to having an affair, being secretive about it is also what most people would do if they were having an affair. That seems like a whole lot of hypocrisy.
As for cheating, it’s estimated that up to 75% of people “cheat.” Now, why would that be I wonder… Any ideas?
And throwing somebody’s stuff out the window, plotting revenge, and do everything in one’s power to destroy another person’s life just because they were having an affair is not exactly a mature reaction, yet that’s exactly how many react. I, personally, find this quite sad.