Dear Yael, women like us have to accept that we inspire lust in men and fear in women, even or especially in our female friends and sisters. There is nothing for it, it has nothing to do with us and everything with them. Both men and women have major issues with sexuality and they are all dealing with them in their own way — NOT in a good way.
Women like you and me are here to light the way, to ignite the spark that will eventually lead to a big change. We are being open about sex and we have to deal with the consequences. I came to terms with that, at least for the most part. I came to terms with the fact that most of my single female friends distanced themselves from me as soon as they got involved in a relationship. I came to terms with having to set boundaries to certain men without worrying about their fragile egos. They are not as fragile as they seem.
So onward and remember — the dogs bark, but the caravan moves on.